What you can expect at a One-to-One Tantric Massage
Session with Ash:
Session with Ash:
It is important to recognise that every Tantric Massage session is different. Not just with each different person, but every session too. There is no such thing as a ‘typical’ Tantric Massage session. Each and every experience is personally tailored to suit YOU and your needs in that particular moment, so what I am describing here is a very basic outline of what you may experience.
The sessions usually take place at my home (in the centre of Brighton), in my therapy room and will take two and half to three hours. Your first session will usually be at least three hours as we establish your 'story so far' and your reasons for wanting to work with me at this point in your life.
When you arrive you will usually be greeted by myself at the door. (Sometimes my husband Sy - also a Tantric Massage therapist - may answer the door, but he is not involved in the sessions.) You and I will sit down and chat about some of your reasons for being here, your lifestyle and some simple medical history. I will give you a brief history of myself and I am happy to answer any questions you may have. This is also when you will pay any outstanding balance in cash.
I will then give you a basket with a robe or sarong and a towel and you will take a shower. After changing into the robe or sarong (whichever you prefer) you and I will sit together in my therapy room.
This is a place of calm and relaxation where there is no agenda or expectations. It is a time to chat about your massage experiences, expectations, and personal boundaries. It is vital for me that you are comfortable and feel at ease with me and the Tantric Massage you are about to experience. I will then talk with you a little more about the session and I will share some simple Tantric practices such as meditation and breath work, to guide you into a deepened state of relaxation and connection.
We will then move into the Tantric Massage.
You will disrobe (so you are naked) and lie face-down on the giant futons and cushions. I will start by massaging your back and entire body with natural almond oil, allowing you to relax into the touch and start to receive deeply. At some point I will invite you to turn over and I will continue the massage with the front of your body.
When you arrive you will usually be greeted by myself at the door. (Sometimes my husband Sy - also a Tantric Massage therapist - may answer the door, but he is not involved in the sessions.) You and I will sit down and chat about some of your reasons for being here, your lifestyle and some simple medical history. I will give you a brief history of myself and I am happy to answer any questions you may have. This is also when you will pay any outstanding balance in cash.
I will then give you a basket with a robe or sarong and a towel and you will take a shower. After changing into the robe or sarong (whichever you prefer) you and I will sit together in my therapy room.
This is a place of calm and relaxation where there is no agenda or expectations. It is a time to chat about your massage experiences, expectations, and personal boundaries. It is vital for me that you are comfortable and feel at ease with me and the Tantric Massage you are about to experience. I will then talk with you a little more about the session and I will share some simple Tantric practices such as meditation and breath work, to guide you into a deepened state of relaxation and connection.
We will then move into the Tantric Massage.
You will disrobe (so you are naked) and lie face-down on the giant futons and cushions. I will start by massaging your back and entire body with natural almond oil, allowing you to relax into the touch and start to receive deeply. At some point I will invite you to turn over and I will continue the massage with the front of your body.
A few words about Tantric Massage
- Tantric Massage is a deeply honouring massage that will relax your entire body. It is about enlivening the whole body to a state of deliciousness and aliveness that you may never have felt before. I will guide you in the transformative process of charging your whole body with sexual energy, as you start to discover that every cell in your body can be orgasmic.
- Tantric Massage is about the whole body, including the sexual organs (or lingham) and not solely focused on the genitals. Tantric Massage is about allowing that delicious feeling of arousal or bliss or whatever you are feeling, to flow through your WHOLE body and not isolate or focus on it in one area only.
- Lingham massage. The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingham and is loosely translated as Wand of Light. In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingham is respectfully viewed and honoured, as a Wand of Light that channels creative energy and pleasure. Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingham massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingham, including testicles, perineum and sometimes Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing you to surrender to a form of pleasure you may not be accustomed to. Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingham Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.
- While clients occasionally ejaculate, that is not the focus of ANY authentic Tantra practice. If you feel the energy of ejaculation starting to build too much, BREATHE MORE and just lift your hand to let me know. I will help guide your energy into your whole body. If an ejaculation happens that’s also perfect - it’s just not what we are aiming for in a Tantric Massage session.
- A Tantric Massage session for you is completely about receiving, about allowing yourself to feel worshipped and adored. It is totally non reciprocal touch as this distracts you from your experience of connecting more intimately with yourself. It is very powerful just to receive, let go of control and surrender to receiving.
- Your job is to receive and breathe, then breathe some more. I will show you some Tantric breathing techniques and visualisations to help you expand and experience MORE!
- I may sometimes ask you to stay in eye contact with me when you are in a position to do so. This is about not getting lost in your head, about learning to be present with the goddess and yourself.
After the massage, I will leave you for 5 or 10 minutes to lie quietly and absorb what you are feeling. When I return, we have a little time to talk about what you have experienced or to ask any questions you may have and to discuss next steps. You may then take a shower before you leave.
The whole session will usually take 2 and a half to three hours.
Future sessions offer you an opportunity to go much deeper, to receive deeper healing - such as sacred spot massage - and to learn many Tantra techniques to empower your relationships with yourself and your lovers. Each following session is a new opportunity to uncover even more depth and passion in your sexual body, and as the trust builds between us, there is more opportunity for more powerful experiences and even more expansion into your multi-orgasmic full-body-orgasm self!
Some of the possible benefits of regular Tantric Massage are: an increase in libido, feeling empowered in your masculinity, more powerful & longer orgasms, profound relaxation, conscious arousal, choosing to ejaculate or not, deeper connection and intimacy with yourself and your lovers, improved confidence, and stress relief. Regular clients will find that they can go much deeper into the experience the more sessions they have, as a mutual trust will be gained.
Tantric Massage can be, and often is, a life changing experience. I will create a safe and sacred space for you to relax and receive expanded pleasure, offering you a deeply sensual and spiritual experience like nothing else you have experienced.
If you have any more questions or anything that you feel unsure about, please don’t hesitate to email me. I am always very happy to tell you more, and please don’t forget that EVERY session is different and tailored to suit YOU each time.
If you would like to book a session with me please email me so we can find a mutually acceptable time and date. I offer sessions weekdays and some weekends between midday and 7pm (start time). I will arrange a short Skype or phone call with you so we can connect personally and you can ask any questions you may have. I will then ask you to pay a £50 deposit and I will give you my address details.
If in doubt, just come along and explore yourself with me!
If you would like to book a session with me please email me so we can find a mutually acceptable time and date. I offer sessions weekdays and some weekends between midday and 7pm (start time). I will arrange a short Skype or phone call with you so we can connect personally and you can ask any questions you may have. I will then ask you to pay a £50 deposit and I will give you my address details.
If in doubt, just come along and explore yourself with me!
Before you come for a One-to-One Session:
Please refrain from smoking, eating a spicy or heavy meal, taking drugs or drinking alcohol before your session.
I will not invite you into my therapy room or personal space if you are intoxicated in any way.
A REMINDER:
Tantric Massage is always non reciprocal touch: you will stay in passive receiving mode, accepting the gift of just receiving. Although we will be working with your sexual energies and strong urges may come up for you, there will be no kissing, oral sex or intercourse during the session, and I will initiate all body contact. It is very powerful just to receive, let go of control and surrender, so please do not push boundaries and spoil the session by being dishonourable, otherwise your session will be terminated immediately.
